How Do You Know If She’s “The One?”

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Daily videos on Instagram and on Tick Tock so wherever you are you can follow Me trip advice Super simple trip with two piece And you can check out what I’m doing on All the platforms Does that sound good What’s up what’s up what’s up cool Well today We’re going to be talking about a fun Topic how did I come up with this topic Well this was a topic that I came up With about a month ago which if any of You remember I did say that I was going To be talking about this topic On a YouTube live which I’m now ready to Do and I think it makes sense to talk About the topic here today how to know If she’s the one Based on what I talked about last week On the YouTube live which we talked About Chemistry and that is Obviously a big part of knowing if the Girl you’re dating is the one now I am Aware that there are going to be guys Who are listening who probably most of You Are not dating somebody right now or are Not close to a relationship right now That’s okay You should still be here and you should Still be listening to this because If you are active if you were going out

If you were trying to do this if you Were trying to date what’s going to Happen is Any day now you could be on a date with A girl who you think might be the one Now when I say the one I’m just saying a Girl who you’re going to be in a Relationship with maybe as far as even Marriage Right a girl that you’re gonna be going The distance with so to speak So on the last week on the last week’s YouTube live I talked about chemistry uh If you haven’t checked that out honestly It was one of my favorite lives I’ve Done in a while I don’t know why I’m not sure uh maybe because I just Really enjoyed it I think the content Was fantastic So check it out and if you’re not Following me on YouTube Instagram Tick Tock if you guys are not following me on YouTube go to my YouTube channel check It out all uh Tick Tock has a link to it Instagram does not have a link to it and Then you can check out that live it was An hour long where I talked about how do You build chemistry with a girl Okay Wow look at that slightly off from Tick Tock said hey man watched a ton of your Content wouldn’t have met my wife if it Weren’t for you thank you you’re very Welcome man thanks for being here I love

That you met your wife and you’re still Here Chad And that’s great so thank you so much Everyone who is writing in the comments Especially on YouTube And as well as Instagram and Tick Tock I’ll do my best to get to them just Throw them out there chat with each Other if you want to I’m going to be Going over some stuff and then we’ll go Into some questions If I’m feeling up to it which I think It’s probably not going to happen I’d Like to have you guys ask questions live Unfortunately a bunch of immature Dudes have kind of ruined that for me Um and so I’m not really inclined so Much to do that anymore because I’m spending more time trying to filter Who’s not going to be Pranking And I only have an hour to do these and I want to spend as much time as I can Helping you so we’ll see I’m sure I’ll Do in the future but let’s get into it Are we ready let’s get some readies I Got a bunch of people here on Tick Tock A bunch of people on Instagram a lot of People here on on YouTube and I want to Hear some readies for you and we’ll get Into it talking about how to know if she Is the one and then like I said after I Go into some of this we will chat

And answer some questions the best we Can Awesome We’re ready ready ready ready ready Let’s do this guys I’m on two days no sugar right now So Megan and I are doing a no sugar for Five days just to see what’s up just we Like to test things out once in a while And it ain’t easy I’ll tell you that Much I think I might be going through just a Tad of withdrawal Which means I’m craving sugar and I’m Feeling a little low energy but we’ll Bring it We will bring it Cool awesome lots of readies here on YouTube And we’re good here Yep yep yep awesome All right let’s rock out Keto flu yeah that’s that’s what I’ve Heard it is it is very similar to keto What am I doing right now because it’s Literally all protein and fat very Little carbohydrates so we’re just Checking it out okay let’s Let’s talk about how to know if she’s The one okay so I like to break everything down I’ve been doing this for 11 years now And I will continue to do it break Everything down

To its simplest form simplest form Thanks Harry simplest form What do we mean she’s the one like what Is that what does that even mean I Take the less romantic approach here And I’m sure if any women are here Listening they’re probably not going to Love some of the things I have to say I Don’t know But I don’t care because the reality is The person who’s the one Is basically saying this person’s the Best fit okay this person is the best Fit And we’ll go into more details on that But I’d like to describe it in that Sense The woman or the man even in in the case For for women it’s it’s the best fit It’s the person who you deemed best fit Now one of the problems with Guys who are searching or women who are Searching for the one one of the Problems is is that we don’t really Necessarily look for the best fit we Tend to on average go with our gut And our feelings based on somebody and While of course that is going to be a Major aspect of of Attraction and and Getting together with someone it’s a Really unhealthy way and could be A disastrous way to go about it more Details in just a bit

So In order to Find the one so to speak the girlfriend The wife the long relationship that you Might be looking for Ideally you’re looking for the best fit I almost want to take The one out of your vocabulary I don’t Know something about it makes me cringe Maybe that’s that non-romantic part of All this just like she’s the one And I know that it’s nice to say it I know that it it feels good to say it And I will say this It’s not easy to find the one that’s for Sure right I think we know that that’s Why they call it the one because there’s Billions of people and you’re finding One person However it just seems unrealistic One of the examples I go to when I think About how that’s unrealistic is let’s Say you found the one He found that one person the best fit For you in in the moment And then unfortunately hate to go dark Here but I gotta do it Unfortunately let’s say that person Passes away Do you think that That’s it for you Do you think that you shouldn’t be in Another relationship find someone else Of course not

You should absolutely Get back out there whenever you do Well if you want to But if you did decide to do that Do we now think that it’s just over for You no of course not We live in a world where we have Opportunities to meet so many people So it seems just a little ridiculous to Say that there’s only one Okay but again I will say It Ain’t Easy that’s why trip advice Exists well one of the reasons why it Exists because we help guys With being able to filter and find the Best fit the one so to speak And so Going into this idea of of best fit Um like I said I’m going to show you how To do it but you have to understand that In order to Find that best fit there has to be some Work involved but also some strategy and This is where that kind of non-romantic Part comes in where it’s like Feels a little funny and I will admit Talk to me 15 years ago I’d say the same Thing that feels funny you just want it To happen Hollywood Damn Hollywood has created this picture In your mind that it just happens If you’ve ever seen the movie Serendipity of John Cusack

Kind of that same idea well really any Movie with John Cusack but uh But yeah they’ve they’ve painted a Picture Of what Dating or finding the one should be like And you got to remember that you’re Watching stories stories made up By some Person in a dark room typing on their Computer Coming up with what they know is going To be fun and fantastic for you to watch Right fantasy So Be very careful of of how you were Raised what TV you watch what movies you Watch and all those Those romantic comedies that have taught You the opposite of of what is the Reality and the reality is strategy Like I just said a bit ago So Make sense so far good so far still with Me good So like I said there is no one you could Have multiple ones in the course Of of your life you know Um there will be moments in time where You will be in relationships and Neil Strauss actually said this he’s a He’s the writer of the game He talked he was big in the pickup world And he wrote this in his book called The

Truth which was a really interesting Book it was the sequel to the game he Said Relationships should not be measured by Their length but by their depth I Thought that was really cool Because there is something about that we Can we can take and learn different Things based on the different Relationships we’ve been in And I think that there’s something great There and eventually what happens is Maybe we get into a few relationships we Learn some lessons and then we find Someone who we deem wow this person is a Great fit in fact that was what happened With me and Megan Same exact idea Wow this person is a great fit and of Course all the lovely things that go With it you respect the person you’re Attracted to the person There’s chemistry all of that good stuff But you have to have the strategy to go Into it and I think people lack the Strategy and I think people Are lacking the strategy More and more of these days Simply because they have so much more Opportunity I feel like there’s there’s a lack of of Strategy because it’s just like wow look At all these potential options we go Online and we can meet more people than

We ever have in the history of the world And ah God it still blows my mind I mean Literally online dating is 20 years old And not everyone was really doing online Dating from late 90s to like Late aughts and then all of a sudden 2012 Tinder comes out Basically the past 10 years that’s it Just a decade what a blip in time that We’ve been able to have so much Opportunity And I think a lot of us are screwing it Up And so um Broadcasting today to be able to help With that okay So I do believe That It takes time and patience A client of mine Most recently He Let’s just say he was a he was a catch Okay we we Turned him into a catch He already had some great things going For him and then he really put himself Out there and had strategy and it took About a year to find a really solid Person okay is this person going to be The one we don’t really know yet but I Will say It took a solid year of going out and

Dating and putting in all the effort To then find someone where they were the Best fit or at least so far I would say a year does in some some Cases sound like a long time but A year to find Or let’s say even two years hell three Years to find someone who’s going to be A great fit for you all right if you’re A person who’s looking for a Relationship and if you’re eventually Looking for marriage It’s not A decision you should take lightly It is one of the most serious decisions Of your life And I absolutely mean that I will say That again it is one of the if you Decide that you want to get married It is one of the most important Decisions of your life not whether or Not you want to get married but who you Pick to marry Because that person can make or break You my friend Here in the trip advice coaching program And just anecdotally I’ve heard way too many stories of guys Who are emotionally Financially Ruined like ruined Disaster We’re talking and it’s and and if you Have kids with this person

It’s uh that’s it you’re stuck with them For life so imagine all of a sudden You made the wrong decision you settled You didn’t do it properly you end up Getting married to some woman Then you have kids then you get divorced And then you end up hating her for Whatever reason And now you got to share custody I can’t even imagine I’m so grateful I’ve never had to go through that I’m Sorry for any guy that has to go through That absolutely Miserable so We don’t want that and that’s why we Have to Know On a strategic level if the woman that You’re dating is let’s say the one okay Silver you said getting married also has Financial legal implication one must Consider as well exactly Exactly so we have to be very careful Here okay So back to my last Point patience it Takes patience you have to have the Right strategy and patience And without patience you can make a rash Decision and be with someone who might Not be a good fit Now I know some of you watch and you Can’t yet get a date or it’s even hard For you to get a date so you’re On your timeline you’re you’re very far

Off to even getting to that point that’s That’s okay That is totally okay it’s uh it’s It’s going to take time to get to that Point where you’re going on a lot of Dates But you’ll get there obviously We can help you you see on the screen You see here on Instagram pinned comment Tripadvicecoaching.com We can get you to that point With one of our dedicated coaches here On staff that will help you And then once you do that’s the next Step Um who was I talking to recently about This someone My view is you guys I’ll say it again That You’re not really ever done with Optimization and learning there’s always The next problem guys think oh I got the Date I got it I got her number I got it I got a girlfriend we’re good I’m Married we’re good we’ve got kids we’re Good No there’s always a point in time It’s always a point in time in the Timeline of your relationship in your Life Every point in time you’re going to have A question there’s going to be a new Problem to solve I like to say that is The richness of Life yes I am reading

Tick Tock comments that is the richness Of life Because with the problems that naturally Occur in life We get the opportunity to solve them to Do better to become a better person Growth never stops exactly like that Growth never stops Um Masculine mindset coach on tick tock And you know what that does that it Sounds like God [ __ ] that’s a lot of Work God life is a lot of work well it Is doesn’t have to be but then your Life’s gonna really be terrible but when You work when you’re in the growth Mindset Knowing that the growth never stops you Become so much more powerful so much More confident You build so much self-esteem that life Is just better So don’t let me paint this picture that Life is a bunch of problems oh God life Is going to be tough it gets better you Enjoy the challenge and the challenges That come one after the other In whatever you’re doing by the way this Doesn’t have to be just Relationships dating this can be health This can be your career this can be your Lifestyle meaning how you spend your Time the people you spend time with your Hobbies it’s like it’s funny too right

You think about a game right people like Games a lot of guys like to play video Games I used to love to play video games From like six years old to like 15 I was Just always playing video games Are they easy No they’re challenging they’re hard but It’s fun it’s fun you get to solve Problems you get to win you get to have Accomplishments it’s great so again to Tie all this back into our topic today How do you know if she’s the one we’re Talking about the fact that there’s Always going to be a new problem to Solve and so wherever you are on your Path you’ll get there and if you’re at This point Where you’re trying to figure out how do I know if she’s the one we’re going to Help you there Now before I go into the how-to uh I Just want to remind you of something Here Once we take the The verbiage the term the one Out of her vocabulary we’re going to Start to become Into we’re going to start to have an Abundant mindset And the Abundant mindset is really Crucial it’s really crucial in every Area of life but we’ll just talk about Dating If you are really loose with uh

The terminology of the one and you end Up You know dating some some girl and a Couple dates go by and you’re like oh my God this girl this girl’s amazing this Girl’s the one And then You find that you become so sucked into Her that you will do anything to have Her because you’ve labeled her as the One you’re gonna start to get into the Scarcity Chase mindset which is what I need all Of you To avoid at all cost Because you’ll end up putting her on Such a pedestal That you’ll end up acting too needy and Then she’ll become unattracted to you And then it can slow basically what Happens is then it slows you down That’s the thing that no one really Teaches you Which I’m trying to share with you right Now is The reason why You don’t want to strategize or I should Say Over strategize for one girl Is because Well first of all probably mean she’s Not interested to begin with if you’re Over strategizing and you’re wasting a Lot of time with the woman who’s not

Already interested in you Okay She’s not already interested in you and So that’s probably why you’re in this Over strategized mode now I know I said Earlier not trying to contradict myself That you there is need there needs to be A strategy but there needs to be a Strategy holistically there needs to be A strategy for your entire game plan of Your dating life not for the one girl That you’re trying to Pine and chase After Now the uh the Abundant mindset Is an is a nice and pretty mindset to Have it’s nice to to think about that To think in abundance is like oh I can Get any girl I can get any girl and then You don’t have to strategize over that One I found that that’s not the most Effective sure it could help a little Bit but really you have to be doing the Things to actually get into an abundance Of women You have to be dating a lot and have Lots of options and become a guy who Does have a lot of options because once We are able to have all those options We’re not going to be going after women Who are not that interested in us So tying back to the theme here we’re Talking about Being really careful with who we’re Labeling as the one and even if

You do find a woman who as I said Earlier is the best fit the best fit for You even if you you do find that We still Like even if you’re certain she passes All the tests We still don’t want to over strategize And Chase that one woman because there Is one crucial Crucial factor involved in finding the One Or in this case the best fit Can anyone guess Instagram Tick Tock YouTube what’s the most important factor In finding a woman who’s the best fit I’ll give you about 15 seconds Just take a wild guess Tell me what you think Someone said the three non-negotiables No but I like where your head’s at We’re close yes we will be talking about The three non-negotiables but nope That’s not it She’s interested in she cares say oh There we go Percy said it she’s Interested in you back Percy you are a Great student that’s right We’ll call it High level of Interest Because that’s what We’re always filtering for Someone also said through Non-negotiables on uh on Tick Tock Thanks make seem

But uh It’s gonna be I believe the number one Even though you can’t have one with the Other but still if I had to say it’s Going to be That high level of interest because I Don’t care how perfect she is In fact I’ll tell you a story I’m Working with a client now well we’re Actually done working together but We just did a recent call and uh and He’s stuck man is he stuck he’s in a Place where he’s got this girl who Passes all of his non-negotiables She’s just the perfect fit On so many levels And He just can’t really get her like they Hang out they sleep together They have fun But she’s also kind of dating another Guy and she’s going back and forth Between the both of them and it’s just a Disaster And he is super stressed out So he did a call the other day and Second I got on the phone call with him I said what I’m going to say to you here I said listen man Because he wrote me a uh a long email Just bulleting everything that’s going On in this situation almost like a Uh like a

Free thought exercise just Every feeling and emotion possible in Every fact you could ever think of I said listen dude What is your ideal scenario here I said Don’t think about her Let’s not think about her for a second Don’t think about this specific girl What is your ideal situation What do you really what kind of Relationship do you really want Describe it to me And without getting too lengthy into it He basically came to the conclusion that He obviously right this is like common Sense but sometimes we it’s hard to see It he wants a woman That wants him and him only and not Confused whether or not she should be With him or another person I’m like yeah I’m like don’t you I was just like guide a guy here for a Second like don’t you just want a girl Who just is obsessed with you and loves You in the healthy way right just like So excited to see you wants to be with You like Your Her person like don’t they don’t you Want that isn’t that what you’re looking For And he’s like yes I’m like yeah I know I Can tell I can tell by what you’re doing Here

I said that’s not her That’s not this situation This isn’t the one This isn’t the best fit But true if you don’t understand she’s Got this quality and this quality and This quality she’s got this quality I said so What’s your point Why why does that matter we really got Down to it we really got granular said Why do those things matter And then we came down to it he did not Believe that he could attract another Woman because All the things that he was saying about Her it’s like well there’s a lot of Women who are going to have that Those qualities that you’re looking for Maybe not a That much but there’s they’re they’re Out there right right yeah of course They’re out there Okay so then why are you settling for Someone who doesn’t really want to fully Be with you if that’s what you’re Looking for if that’s your ideal Relationship why aren’t you Or I should say why are you settling for This And then it came down to that he just Didn’t think that he can go out there And meet other women he lives in a Not going to say no I was going to say

Rural it’s definitely not rural but it’s A it’s a cold Town let’s put it that way So once winter comes it’s It’s really hard to uh to meet somebody And I said so what So what so you’d rather be in this hell That you’re living right now this hell Of going back and forth This insane Uh tornado like is this what you want We just had to get down to that and of Course his answer was no Sound is low Can anyone confirm sound is low on YouTube I’ll turn it up a little bit So Um Yeah Guys level of Interest super important So now we’re getting into it so how do You know if she’s the one now that we We’ve uncovered some of the the main Principles and ideas here How do you know uh yes high level of Interest of course And then you got your three Non-negotiables we’ll go over that in Just a second and then we got your Chemistry which I went in depth into Last week kind of this is almost like a Continuation so if you guys are Interested in learning more about how to Build chemistry with the woman check out The live on YouTube that I did last week

That was uh what was the date on that November 29th check that out whole hour Long you can you can watch that if You’re more of a listener You can check out the podcast I am going To put out that episode Thursday probably on the how to talk to Girls podcast And you can find that on Spotify or Apple wherever podcasts are just type in How to talk to girls that’s the Trip advice podcast So How do we know she’s the best fit Not the one the best fit yes your Chemistry Which I’ll just Define real quick I like To say chemistry is kind of that gut Feeling that you have when you’re with Someone it’s this comfortability it’s This attraction you kind of tie all Those together you got chemistry You just feel comfortable around her you Feel attracted to her Again ways to build that you can learn On that YouTube video that live I did Last week So obviously that has to be there And then you have your three Non-negotiables so the three Non-negotiables are as simple as this What are the three qualities that you’re Looking for I’ve taught this many times Maybe it’s a little bit New To You Tick

Tock maybe New To You Instagram not New To You YouTube I’ve talked about it a Lot Is three non-negotiables guys um hit me Up with questions I really want to talk About this topic though so I’m going to prioritize questions Regarding today’s topic So hit me up Tick Tock YouTube no Instagram Tech talk YouTube hit me up we’ll talk about it I See some coming in already But yes three qualities that you’re Looking for in a woman Whatever you want it doesn’t matter You get to pick Uh Y3 Y3 Well You don’t want to put yourself in a Position where your pool is so small Because then that becomes dangerous as Well You have too long of a list Five six seven eight I mean ask many Women their lists are very long Especially modern women these days it It’s actually quite a disaster and That’s why a lot of women are remaining Single into their 30s they call it They’re not settling but I believe that Their lists are just way too long and You can have a great relationship and Find a great fit with someone

Who has the three things that you’re Looking for Examples it can be anything based on Similar values similar Hobbies Could be religion it could be a Political stance it can be based on Whether or not you want to have kids That’s always a really good one right so Whether you want them or not want them That would be one of your non-negotiable Maybe how they treat their finances Could be one uh could be a woman who Wants to travel a lot because travel is Big to you it’s so important you got to Have someone who’s going to want to do That you love tennis so much that you Just want to be playing all the time you Want to be playing with your partner Great that’s one it’s really up to you And what you want People ask me all the time like what do You recommend I don’t recommend it’s Whatever you want I guess I can maybe Recommend the one with the kids that’s a Pretty big one Again having or not having it’s like you Pick what you want and that’s one of the Qualities of her so if you don’t want Kids you’d say I want to look I want a Woman who’s not interested in having Kids that’s a non-negotiable I was Talking to my friend the other day Which is a she we came up with her three Non-negotiables which were someone who’s

Very active like a very active person Likes to do things like stay busy Someone who has ease of travel Okay and then doesn’t want kids so those Were her three that we came up with And then I told her when you’re out There dating These are what you’re looking for This is what you’re looking for It’s not something that you figure out On date five or day 10 that’s That’s going to put you in a bad Position you will get someone said here Something about attachment you will get Overly attached And then you won’t be able to think Clearly And then you go back and forth sometimes For Months On whether or not you should be with This person because you let yourself get Attached without Disqualifying them And that’s a big thing Okay gotta disqualify people who don’t Fit all right let’s go to some some Thoughts here Uh yeah guys throw them out there by the Way let’s do that right now so If you’re on Tick Tock Instagram YouTube Throw out some of your non-negotiables Do it so other people can see

So let’s paint forward a little bit Sometimes it’s good to give guys some Ideas like what are you looking for Someone said what if you have a woman That ticks all the boxes and even more But you’re just not feeling it deep down I know this person is good for me in my Future but at the same time I want Something else so that’s a great example I’ll say this again for the tick tock And Instagram people what if you want a Woman that ticks all the boxes and even More you’re just not feeling it deep Down I know this person is good for me And for my future but at the same time I Want something else very simple This is no chemistry So that’s just you don’t have the Chemistry it’s not there You it’s just not there just is what it Is A good indication of chemistry to me is You can talk easily yeah that’s probably The number one sign of chemistry Is is that conversation flows right That’s a big one Tick Tock said good Banter funny Some females said why are you telling Guys to have options but the woman must Be devoted to the guy Huh Don’t know what that means Um I have a question okay if a girl’s

Parents Tells her that you’re the one for her Does that mean she’s the right one Because that’s how my girlfriend and I Got together uh no that’s someone else’s Opinion No one else can choose for you if this Girl is the one or the best fit it’s Going to be up to you chemistry is a big Part of that right her parents can think That all day your friends can think that All day sometimes by the way be careful We can get a real suede real fast by the People we surround ourselves with right So if you start talking to your friends Or your parents or whoever about the Girl you’re dating and she’s like oh my God they go wow she sounds perfect that Sounds amazing and you’re going to be Like oh man my friends approved my Parents approve But then there’s something deep down That’s saying to you I don’t know I’m Not sure I’m not so sure Don’t listen to them listen to you Listen to that gut that’s probably the Chemistry right there or maybe something That’s off that you’re not too you’re Not being too honest with yourself about So be very careful With Getting too much advice from friends on Whether to know that person’s a good fit Maybe on some of the red flags or such

But Okay we got someone whose health and Fitness conscious Cool I’ll tell you Tech talk you guys you Just have the weirdest questions Um Let’s see similar sense of humor doesn’t Want to have kids Fiscally responsible no drug or alcohol Abuse problems currently or previously I Would even say like duh like right like There’s some duh I call them like does Like yeah she shouldn’t have a drug Problem right it’s like We’re not going to be with anyone I Don’t care if they meet your Non-negotiables and you’ve got great Chemistry she’s got a drug problem Or she’s got a lot of issues going on We’re not going to be with this person Uh 367 You should be doing both simultaneously Fit honest ones kids You know honest is like that’s another Duh She better be honest I hope she’s honest I wouldn’t pick that as one it’s not Like Honest is like I’m trying to think of any of a Correlating example here I can’t right Now but Yeah someone said again faithfulness

It’s like yeah well don’t make that as One plus you you won’t ever know like You won’t know For sure I mean I guess you could find Out her past but you don’t know she’s Gonna be faithful to you no one knows How you just got to do it right you just Gotta go with it You got to have a little faith basically This is an interesting question is it Possible to have chemistry without Physical attraction I think yeah Absolutely I think there is yeah I think You can absolutely have I mean I like to say and I said this in my last Live that Attraction is like part of chemistry It’s like I don’t Really call that chemistry it’s more Like yeah you got this great connection But you’re not attracted to her Whatever you want to call that it’s just Not Not someone you should be going for It’s still a volume problem huh I don’t Think I can turn this up anymore Um Can you work through being passive and Poor communication skills to save a Relationship I think so Yeah for sure Sounds like the non-negotiable should go Beyond the bare minimums Exactly I like that’s a good way of

Saying it yes Yep it goes beyond the bare minimums Whatever you want to call that red flags Bare minimums duh the does Like The bare minimum won’t be yeah won’t be A non-negotiable Someone said my main focus right now is Looking great German clothing confidence Social dominance and believe in yourself And understand other and be careful what You say Great and bad sense of humor Embraces Your flaws Yeah In your opinion is chemistry more Powerful than physical attraction Um Again I do believe that Chemistry attraction is part of Chemistry When you say wow I have chemistry with This person It involves a attraction plus a Comfortability what dude Austin watch That live I did last week I go real deep Into this and I think it might help you It’s on my channel it’s on the YouTube Channel so check that out But yeah these are great thoughts here And good non-negotiables guys thanks for Uh shouting them out I think it helps people and here’s the Other thing guys

When it comes to Your non-negotiables they can change Don’t work too hard at this in the Beginning like literally take an hour Less take 20 minutes What’s the first three things that pop In your head figure out what those are Stick with it go out date meet women get Into some relationships and Casual Relationships And then as you go through the process You will end up finding out what Actually matters to you and what doesn’t You might go oh you know what I don’t Really care about that non-negotiable Anymore I don’t care about their maybe You had a strong political stance and You realized oh you could be with Someone who’d is more moderate or on the Other end or I don’t know something like That you just end up dating and you find Out that it didn’t really matter as much As you thought it was going to matter And that’s okay then you gotta free Space to come up with another one Yes I do a book I want to recommend Uh there’s a book It’s called the Tactical guide to women I recommend it quite often in my book Recommendation list I’ve actually Interviewed the author Sean T Smith on My podcast two times And his book His book is kind of about the does

The bare minimums looking for a woman Who Doesn’t have any since uh has any big Red flags and looking for a woman who Is a emotionally mature great Add to your life and that’s the idea Here right why are we doing this Let’s come back to the why for a second I don’t think we really we really came Down to that Um Why Why are we trying to figure out If she’s the one a great fit I actually just talked about this on my Podcast recently too It’s because you want someone to add to Your life That’s the most important You want something that’s going to add Not subtract And I would say no neutral but I don’t Even know what that means it’s probably Going to be pretty binary here it’s Probably going to be some sort of she’s Adding or she’s subtracting She’s making your life better or she’s Making it worse Like like Franklin detour to four said On Tick Tock I got a wife that’s trying To take everything yep Uh for those of you who are confused why I’m not looking at you directly on Instagram and on Tick Tock it’s because

I’m looking at the YouTube because That’s where I’m also going live and I can’t put my phones far away I need to Be Touching them and looking at them so It’s always going to be a funny angle Anyway Um We’re doing this because we want someone To add to our life A client of mine who a long-term client Of mine Who’s been in and out of coaching you Know We have to come back to that idea Because he’s dated some women where I Have to come back and I have to say dude Is she adding to your life or is she Making it harder is there drama And problems Or and of course It’s inevitable it’s not going to be Easy it’s always not going to be always Rainbows and butterflies but 95 or more of the time it should be And you should have strategies to make Sure it will be of course it gets harder When you have kids and things like that I’m not saying it’s easy But Still I mean not only you guys might know I Mean how many of you have been in poor Relationships just say I if you have

Who’s been in a rocky relationship where You realized afterward or maybe you’re Realizing right now [ __ ] That person took away took things away From me subtracted from me made life Harder And sometimes we get into relationships Where we’re unable to see that because We are so chemically attached to this Person Because we have bonded with them because We have had sex with them because we’ve Spent time with them because we’ve been Through different emotional stages with Them so it’s it it becomes much harder To see through that And that’s the name of the game it’s Like in this funny way we’re kind of Like dodging all the crazy emotions that Are coming through it’s like oh yeah I Lust after them I’m infatuated with them But like boom boom boom we got a block And we got to think clearly we gotta Think About Whether or not this person is a good fit Mic drop that’s it it’s what it is Yeah we’ve had some eyes here aye aye Yep had some Tick-Tock eyes here yep yep Yep Space truck space truck in 1991 good Name my girlfriend is bossy otherwise Perfect what to do

I’d love to know a little bit more about That Um bossy how Sounds like she’s taking away from your Life sounds like you need to have a Conversation with her A lot of issues that happen in Relationships can get resolved with Conversations but people are too afraid To have them Yep That’s awesome man striped one says I Had a female friend I was interested in Who was toxic and when she was out of my Life my life got better from there two Years later I’m doing a lot better you Said female friend I I wonder if you Literally mean a female friend or if you Mean The girl you were dating but let’s just Say this guys What’s up what’s up so guys listen to This this is super important here It’s not just The women in your life The women who you date the women who you Sleep with it’s not just them Okay it’s everybody It’s every body in your life Your parents your siblings your friends Your mentors the people you choose to Spend time around Should be adding to your life it’s a big Point

We can get caught up in toxic Friendships I’ve been in I’ve been in Them I’ve had over the course of the years Not many But they’ve been there It’s like oh that was a that was no good We weren’t we were we were butting heads There was a lot of drama it wasn’t Working out and then all of a sudden What happens You distance yourself from them Life Starts to get a little bit better You break the friendship with them and You realize I didn’t need this person in My life they weren’t really adding what Was I holding on to So it’s it’s everything What if you were the toxic one well and Then that could be the case too right uh Well I’ll give you a tip How do you know if you’re the toxic one In the relationships How do you know if uh You’re the one who’s the comma Denominator it’s really simple if you Ever say to yourself Something along the lines of Everyone you come in contact with brings Drama it’s like you feel like it’s Happening a lot Common denominator is probably you and You got to be honest with yourself on That

If you just struggle with all of your Relationships in your life or a majority Of them it’s probably you This live stream has inspired me to Write in for a podcast question that’s Good yes Yes Podcast is called how to talk to girls By the way it’s been live for Eight years Yeah seven years yeah no eight eight Years damn eight years uh still do it Every week Two episodes every single week And I can also answer your question on The podcasts Okay we got a female here asked how can I approach the intentions conversation After a month of seeing each other I’m Fearful of losing what we have Um A month is a little soon But also know that If it’s a guy for you he won’t run away If you have that discussion You just got to bring it up a little bit More casually shouldn’t be like we’ve Been dating a month we have to get in a Relationship right now But I understand that women do want to Filter out for women for men who are Just looking for For sex and nothing more Um

Okay Someone said I’m a runner as soon as the Controlling starts and it feels Possessive I move on now I’d be careful There because That That could be Um one of your attachment issues I’m looking at you tick tock Maniac manic manic I can’t pronounce Your name It could be on your end you might have A An attachment issue that’s having you Run away Yes I answered questions on there William I do you know what’s really annoying About Instagram live Is It says every single freaking second When someone joined like I don’t I don’t Need to see the name of every single Person who’s joining here and then I Can’t see the questions and That’s a stupid function doesn’t do that Here on YouTube Anyway Cool has this been helpful guys Has this been helpful Let me know if it has been hope so Uh this is this has been Fun kind of going into these deeper Topics lately

Austin Um no I I don’t I did it because I was Creating a program called infield Breakdown Foreign Yep thanks John appreciate it Um cool any topics let’s go into this What topics would you guys like me to Chat about next week I will be going Live same time same place And um I’d love to kind of see where You’re at and what’s going on in your Life What’s a good topic and please don’t say Some of the obvious ones although you Know what I will not constrain you Let’s just see what you have to say I want more topics on relationship Choosing right one keep right one Through conversation Cool yeah we can go deeper into Relationship stuff this is today was the One on Choosing the one there’s really not much More to say here I guess there’s some details But this is pretty much everything You can’t find IG live you got to follow Me on on IG That’s cool Awesome sinashime I’m glad that you got Hooked that’s great Thanks Austin appreciate it

Um Yeah so before we end here I know that Some guys You enjoy the lives which has been great But if you need more resources if you Need more help let me tell you where to Go So we have Um hang on Foreign Here’s one resource you can get this on Amazon easy read we actually go into the Non-negotiables in the last chapter the Chapter called Um How to ask a girl to be your girlfriend That’s pretty much everything on Non-negotiable so you can check that out It’s uh It’s on Amazon If you don’t like to read you’d rather Watch a video or a series of videos I Have hooked That is My course that teaches you how to Attract women And how to get better at meeting women Can check that out getterhook.com For you guys watching on Instagram and Tick Tock that’s getterhook.com that’s My video course teaching you everything About meeting and attracting women how Attraction works so that way you can and Get to the point where you can find the

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Because we can’t work with everybody If you’re under 18 for example If you don’t have a job that can support Investing in the program Or if sometimes guys are just in it for The wrong reasons we’re not trying to Help guys who are necessarily trying to Get back at their ex things like that so We have to know what’s going on So check it out Uh yeah there we go well we’re over an Hour thanks everyone for joining thank You Instagram appreciate it guys you can Also follow me on Instagram I’m putting Out different reels every single day and I’m in the DMS talking to people So you can do that uh for you who are Watching me on Instagram right now if You’re interested in getting more help Just DM me the word YouTube You guys can do that too any of you tick Tock YouTube just go on my Instagram follow Me DM me the word YouTube Because this is Um Mainly a YouTube live And Actually let’s do this way Wherever you’re from To DME that word so Instagram DM me the Word Instagram YouTube DM me the word YouTube Tick Tock DM me the word Tick Tock I’ll know where you came from and

That signals to me that you’re Interested in getting help and we can Talk to you about that and see what we Can do for you There you go thanks so much I’ll come up with some good topics for Next week join me live again here On Tuesdays 5 30 Central See you next time