Tai Lopez’s Brilliant Dating Advice That Can Transform Your Life

You remember a guy named Tai Lopez? My 
Lamborghini. Yep. Here in my garage.   But you know it's more impressive than my 
Lamborghini? All my books. all this knowledge.   It's gonna sound like I'm showing off here. I used 
to know him personally. We weren't like friends.   But we've texted, we've talked, I hung out at his 
house like his nice house in the hills. Because   Before he became famous for the video that all 
that stuff before he was a multi multimillionaire,   He would have these little parties and he'd 
invite interesting people who lived in LA.   And so I was kind of part of a mastermind that 
he was part of. That's another way that we met.   And point being is the guy's got some interesting 
things to say. And he said one thing. I've   Listened to him speak on multiple subjects. 
Yeah, but one thing stands out. And I love it.   It's a little bit like militaristic in a 
sense, like kind of intense, tough love,   But like that resonates with me. And he said 
this. He said… I'm gonna butcher it, it's not   Like an exact quote. But he said something 
like, you don't deserve anything until you   Actually get it. So for example, you don't 
have a six pack? You don't deserve it.   You don't have a million dollars? 
You don't deserve it. You don't have   An amazing woman in your life? Or sleeping 
with multiple girls? You don't deserve it.   You have to do the work to get the thing. And 
it's like oh man that really. That stuck with   Me hardcore for many years in a positive way. 
Not like he's right. I don't deserve it. Not   That. It's like. Just broken. Right. Yeah. Like 
someone just beating "you don't deserve this".   But that's the point is the way to getting 
what you want isn't going to be where   Someone's gonna get it for you. You're gonna 
have to create it. And I think about that,   Like at least every couple months. Whenever 
I want to whine and complain in my head about   Something. Why don't I have this yet? It's like, 
well, you don't have that yet because you don't   Deserve it. You're not doing the things. You got 
to do the things. So either put in more work.   Work harder, or work smarter. One of 
those. I agree. I give you a saying that.   Brian Darden, no one would know him. But 
basically, he's a prominent fitness figure   In the fitness business, and he has a saying 
that is, you're perfectly aligned for the   Results that you're getting. I mean, that's 
synonymous with what I was saying. Exactly. So   Whatever we're doing or not doing is literally 
gonna have us in the same situation. And when   It comes to dating, it's always 9 times out of 
10. It's got to be the not doing. From what you   Have experienced. And I don't want to keep you 
here too long. But from what you've experienced,   Is it more what guys are doing to get women 
or the things they're not doing to get women?   I mean, it's really both. 
Bottom line. It's both right.   Because with anything it is the magic 
of both. Things you got to stop doing,   Those things you have to start doing. Now 
gun to the head, if I had to pick which one?  

It's probably the things that they're not doing. 
But are there like habits or tendencies that you   See guys have that you've helped them develop out 
of that? Like, if you want to even give examples   Of like things like, you have this habit you have 
to break, it's not attractive to women. Yeah.   I'm trying to think of a good example here 
with a client that I worked with recently.   Yes, so one guy that I worked with, he had.   So okay, yeah, this is an interesting 
story. He had such bad approach anxiety.   And then when we finally got him over the approach 
anxiety, and then he's like, okay, I'm like   Talking to these women but like, I don't know what 
to say here. And then we finally worked on that.   So he finally well, I guess, maybe going 
back to what I said, it's really things   You have to start doing. Yeah, because he's 
started going out and being more social. He   Pushed himself to do that, while I also pushed 
him. We weren't on the phone every single day,   He had to do it by himself sometime. And then we 
got to the point where I talk about hard work.   He built himself up from I couldn't approach   To now I can approach to, I don't know what 
to say to girls and make them interested in me   To now I can do that. And no excuses, he was in 
Chicago, in January, the coldest time of the year   Outside, in some public area and approached a 
girl who then ended up becoming his girlfriend   Who then ended up a year later moved in with him. 
And that's just insane to me. It's like, oh, okay,   So this guy who didn't have any experience with 
women jumped from that to he met a girl freezing   Cold outside out. That's what I'm thinking. These 
are the worst conditions to approach any person.   It was, I mean, it wasn't mind blowing for me, 
because I knew he could do it and I've seen   Guys do it before. But it's still just like, yes, 
exactly. What do you think was the as you develop,   I'm guessing the catalyst from that is just 
him building a newfound like confidence.   Yes. Confidence and skill. You know, he 
recorded, he went out. He did approaches,   He recorded them. We listened to them. I tweaked 
them. I said, don't say that. Okay, say this,   You should have said this here. Whatever it is. 
And he built confidence through that. And also   This guy really wanted to change. Yeah, like 
bad. Wow. Like really bad. He came off of a   Divorce with kids. I don't, yeah, he came from 
a religious background, no longer religious.   So he was just in this, like, I got 
to change and I want to be somewhat   Different mindset that really fueled him. 
Even though he had that approach anxiety,   Even though he didn't know how to talk to women, 
didn't know how to flirt. So he really wanted to   Reinvent himself. Just badly. You know, he fucking 
deserved it. He deserves that woman that he is…   I don't know. I'm guessing maybe by now. They're 
engaged. You know, that was a couple of years ago.   I don't remember what the original question was. 
I was asking you… damn, what did I ask you? Oh   An example. What do you need to start doing, 
what do you need to stop doing. So actually,  

I'm gonna take back my answer. Because you don't 
want to have double negatives, I don't want to   Say well, you should stop not, blah blah blah. 
Forget the double negative, make it a positive.   You need to start doing more… fill in the 
blank. Lots of things. It can be approaching,   Building yourself up as a person who's 
more interesting, talking to more people,   Getting more social, changing your eating 
habits, changing your style habits.   And that's what we help with. It's 
a combination. Yeah, of everything.