7 Tips For Approaching Girls That Any Guy Can Use

Are you trying to approach women but you're just 
too scared? Or maybe you've been doing it for a   While and it's just not getting you anywhere. 
Here's 7 tips that are going to help you right   Away. Number one for the newbies you need to 
be approaching fast. I want you to think of   The 3 Second Rule. This was coined by Mystery old 
pickup artist, one of his best pieces of advice.   When you see a woman you want to go up to her 
and talk to her as fast as possible. If you're   Waiting too long then your brain is going to make 
up excuses why you shouldn't go and approach. We   Want to trick our brain so we're faster than 
the way that it thinks by the time we go up to   A woman it's been 3 seconds we're already talking 
to her and we're not allowing ourselves to stop.   It's something that needs practice so you need to 
be practicing the 3 Second Rule. Maybe you won't   Get it right away but when you're going out and 
talking to women you're gonna be trying to get it   Down to 3 seconds. She might be further away than 
3 seconds but I think the idea is you just want   To start going over there as fast as possible. 
Whether she's in a bar in a club on the street,   Wherever you see her, you see her go over 
3 seconds and you use your opening line.   Which brings me nicely to number two. Don't 
overthink the opener. There are really simple   Openers that you can use just like this one. Hey, 
excuse me hi two seconds. I wanted to say hi.   You don't need anything fancier than that. I'm 
not saying that you only have to use that as   An opener. I'm just saying that you can really 
use whatever you want and if you can't think of   Something to open up the conversation with then 
you can just use something simple as hi. Going up   To them and saying I just wanted to come and meet 
you. Asking them where they're from and starting   Conversation. The problem is most guys have really 
bad approach anxiety. If they think too long and   Too hard about okay what should I say, well guess 
what happens, now we're over 3 seconds and you're   Gonna make excuses up of why you shouldn't go over 
there and just start a conversation. Number three,   Approach often. There's a famous saying with 
a lot of things called if you don't use it you   Lose it and this is the exact same thing with 
approaching. For example, you could be going   Out approaching talking to women multiple times 
per week and then eventually you're going to find   Yourself in a relationship or a situationship 
and then you're not going to be approaching   For a while. Let's say that situationship or 
relationship ends and you go back out there,   You start to feel that same anxiety that you 
once did when you started. You feel a little   Rusty. Any skill you're going to feel rusty if you 
don't do it for a while. The key is not to avoid   Situationships or relationships but making sure 
that you're doing this often to build the habit.   If you're only going out and talking to women once 
per week or only talking to one woman per week,   It's not going to be the same as going out and 
talking to 10 women a week. Or for example, doing   An approach every single day for a month. Putting 
that time in is going to make you better. And I   Want you to avoid this idea of trying to save 
it. Like oh I don't want to go out to this bar  

Or this club or wherever because I don't want to 
approach girls yet because I don't know how to do   It yet and so I want to save it for the time when 
I'm better so I don't waste it on these women who   I'm attracted to. Don't think that way, think in 
abundance. There are plenty of women to talk to,   You're never going to lose a shot. Number four, 
one of the more important ones – calibrate after   The fact. One of the coaches Julian from RSD 
used to talk about this and it was huge really   A game changer for not just approaching but most 
things in life. Don't assume what's going on in   An interaction. Don't try to calibrate before, 
okay, she's with these people she's with one guy   And three girls or she looks kind of happy or 
sad and I gotta change my approach to go over   There before I do it so I don't get rejected and 
make it perfect. Don't worry about that calibrate   After. Just go over, use the 3 second rule, start 
talking to the girl that you're interested in. And   Then you can work on whatever you need to in that 
moment. We can never assume exactly what's going   On, we can never assume who's her boyfriend, 
who's not, who she's friends with – calibrate   After. We keep getting into really great ones 
here. Number five, it's not about what you say,   It's how you say it. When you're talking to a 
woman when you're in an approach it's not so   Much you have to say the most interesting things 
in the world. Sometimes you're going to be in   A conversation where some of the things you say 
are kind of boring and lame, like what do you do,   Where are you from? Other things might be 
more interesting, you might tell a story. It's   Always going to be a mixture of different types of 
content for example. But it's all about your vibe,   It's about your attitude, it's how comfortable you 
are in an approach when you're talking to a woman.   She's paying more attention to that than she is 
every single word that you're saying. It doesn't   Need to be mind-blowingly interesting, you just 
have to have a cool vibe and be more comfortable   When talking to women. If you go over and you 
say the most interesting things in the world but   You're not giving her good eye contact and your 
voice is sounding really nervous like this and you   Just kind of feel freaked out, it doesn't matter 
what you say, that attitude that vibe that body   Language the energy that you're giving off will 
probably ruin it. Next let's talk about groups,   I get this question all the time. What if she's 
in a group? The best advice I have for you in most   Cases is when she's in a group you go over to the 
one that you want to talk to. Don't necessarily   Approach the whole group, you can, like I do here. 
Do you want me to take a photo of you girls. I'm   Single because you're dating her cousin. Single 
single single okay so then I should grab your   Number and we should hang out sometime. We have to 
go, I'll give you my phone number but we have to   Go. But the best way to really do it is go up to 
the one that you're interested in. So if there's   A girl who's walking with another girl, if there's 
a girl and a group of girls, just go over and talk   To the one that you like and then what do we do? 
Tying everything together, calibrate after the   Fact, bring in the other people into the group as 
need be in the conversation. Sometimes you might  

Be at a bar and a girl might be kind of hanging 
out she's talking to her friends but there's like   Five friends there and you go up you start talking 
to her and they kind of ignore because they want   Her to be talking to you. They actually want their 
friend to be succeeding so they're not talking as   Much. But if one enters the conversation great 
you'll start talking to them a little bit. But   Instead of trying to control the whole group just 
talk to the one that you're interested in. Next   Ask her for her number even if you're not sure 
if she's interested in you. A lot of guys will   Forget to ask for the number, they'll forget to 
get contact information, they'll forget to even   Ask her on an insta date and keep hanging out 
because they're not sure they haven't had the   Signs yet. Don't worry about the signs. She might 
give him to you, she might not give you the signs   That she's interested. Sometimes women are very 
shy and they can come off very cold but they   Actually like you. How will you know for sure? 
It's when you ask her out and you actually try   To get her number. And once you get her number 
you want to ensure that she likes you. It can   Be a delicate balance between how much do you 
text her, how much do you pay attention to her,   How much interest you show versus not. Well you 
can check out a video here on the screen where I   Actually teach you how to ignore a girl properly 
and step by step what to do so she continues to   Like you and you're not being too needy. Or if 
you want the secret of how I've been able to   Get my coaching clients 10x more dates through 
approaching then go to TrippAdviceCoaching.com   Watch that short video there and you can learn 
more about how we can get you to mastery level.